When you say you’re big, there are at least four possibilities:
- You’re big compared to the general adult population.
- You’re big compared to your peers, and this may be because you started developing before them, so your penis started growing quickly.
- You’re big compared to what you’re used to, because it has recently grown really quickly.
- You’re more of a shower than a grower, i.e. when soft your penis doesn’t lose much size compared to when it is erect.
I can’t tell from what you’ve written which one of these applies to your or whether there it is some combination of them.
On the thing about it being noticable, one of the difficulties of puberty is making the mental transition. For as long as we can remember, we have had a child’s body, just one that gradually gets bigger then, very quickly, it seems to have turned into an adult body before our own idea of ourselves has changed from child to adult. I also don’t think it helps that society’s idea of childhood and adulthood doesn’t line up with physical development for most people. But this is a transition you need to make. Just as girls have to get used to having breasts, which boys are given to staring at, so we have to get used to there being some kind of bulge down there. You can, of course, choose clothing that makes it more or less obvious and you can be grateful that our crotches are further away from eye level that girls breasts.
On how to cope with sex, the best thing to remember is that, when you find the right person, it is something your explore together, not something you do to your partner or a performance you put on.
