Question

CadeFoster

I have a younger brother (he’s 9, I’m 15). We share a bedroom (which, from what I understand from both the old TeenHut and form some of my friends and cousins, is not an uncommon thing). But the thing is, my brother has unfortunately been through…a few bad things in his life so far. I don’t really want to get into them here (but I will say that among other things, he’s seeing a therapist for it). One thing is that he still gets nightmares, and one of the things that seems to help so that he doesn’t get them (at least not a lot) is that he sleeps with me. Our parents even got us a queen sized bed to help with that. He likes to cuddle with me as we sleep. One thins is, we both sleep in just our briefs. A few people that I’ve told this to think it’s pervy and weird. It might be a bit weird, but this is my brother and I want to help him. It isn’t like we’re doing anything….well, sexual (which is what I get the impression people think is happening whenever they call it pervy). I’m straight, and even if I weren’t I wouldn’t ever do anything like that with my own brother. So how do I address the topic of it not being pevy to those who think it is? (Or do I just not tell people about the sleeping arrangements of my brother and me?)

Colin97

I reckon you don’t need to address it at all. Why is it anyone’s business what your sleeping arrangement is? Like you said, you aren’t experimenting with him. Although I think given the age difference it wouldn’t even be a case of experimenting, but would be molesting but that’s beside the point. The point is he needs support and you are providing it so carry on and don’t talk about it with others. I don’t think it is anyone’s business.

BlackParadePixie

I don’t really see any reason to just mention it if it doesn’t come up in conversation.

Miki

Not sure what it has to do with anybody else, or why you feel the need to tell them

after_the_rain333

First of all, I hope your brother is okay. 😞 Second, like other people have said, I don’t see why it would come up in a conversation. k

Maseb

Nobody else’s F’ing business. My younger brother often crawled into bed with me when he was little, thunderstorms scared him, but for any reason. Didn’t matter what we did or didn’t wear in bed, it was a brotherly act to comfort him. I’m glad you’re there for him

obees

im 13 and i sometimes go into my 19 year olds step brothers bed when i stay with him i have known him since i was born. I also have a 7 year old brother and he sometimes goes into bed with me, do not think its an issue

Pahern0317

It’s not an issue. You aren’t doing anything wrong. It’s also not anyone else business.

CadeFoster

Thanks for the concerns about my brother and the advice.

Yeah, I probably shouldn’t worry about it too much. But it’s strange that some people are taking issue with it. I know others share bedrooms and bathrooms with same-sex siblings and see each other outright naked (and yes, my brother and I do see each other naked and have for years, even before the problems). And sometimes they also have had younger siblings crawling into bed because of a bad nightmare or such. And no one thinks anything of it. But when my brother and I share a bed and sleep in just our undies, people think it’s pervy even though there’s no real reason to.

Well, I guess I should just be more careful as to who I talk to about such things.

Pahern0317

There is never anything wrong with nudity among same-sex siblings. Some families go beyond that and have casual nudity.