Ok so I’ve heard a lot of different things about the hymen… So girls, how big a deal was it the first time you had sex? Did you still have it your first time or how did you break it?

The hymen can break at anytime, it can break from exercise, using tampons, masturbation, so just because it’s broke doesn’t mean she isn’t a virgin

Penelope yeah I kind of heard that stuff before, but just curious what it was actually like for real girls I guess.

Penelope that must hurt. once broken, is that it?it doesnt mend itself?

OR_EthanRiver Well as for first time sex it would depend if it’s still intact or not, but first time sex is still going to hurt intact or not

jacksmith123 No it doesn’t heal back up

Hymen questions

Abbi

Mine was already gone but I’m a virgin

OR_EthanRiver

Abbi how did you break it?

Abbi

OR_EthanRiver i don’t know, by the time I learned about them it was gone already
Mum said probably from gymnastics or anything

jacksmith123

Abbi
how did u know it was hone?

BlackParadePixie

jacksmith123 really??

Abbi

jacksmith123 because it wasn’t there

jacksmith123

BlackParadePixie
yeah. is it really that obvious?

BlackParadePixie

jacksmith123 yeah

HoopHero

I think most guys haven’t seen a hymen because when they’re first with a girl a lot of the time she has already lost it one way or another plus they never see a hymen in porn obv. Girls should remember that guys are sometimes clueless to the female body. Girls definitely know more about the male body, but probably not as well as guys know about it.

Abbi

HoopHero “it’s my first time honest” 😉

OR_EthanRiver

And a lot of us haven’t done anything with a girl yet so we’re even more clueless…
Are girls able to see their hymen if they still have it? Or do they feel it?

BlackParadePixie

I’ll put it this way…

Did you guys ever do any body exploration? Or just stare at yourselves in the mirror…?

Sean2001

BlackParadePixie

I suspect most guys have done. I know when I got to puberty, part of that was becoming much more aware of my penis and examining it with renewed interest. To be fair, though, our bits are more visible, i.e. you don’t really need a mirror, though it is worth noting that you don’t get an accurate impression of penis size looking down on it.

DavidM06

From what I have heard the hymen is a thin membrane that covers the vaginal opening and as the girl grows the membrane can naturally dissolve or be broken/torn in several different ways including sexual penetration

Abbi

Do boys actually want a girl to have their hymen intact? Is the idea of first sex hurting appealing to them?

jacksmith123

Abbi
it not so much the hymen being there or not, more being with a virgin. When boys talk about taking a girls cherry, it’s more the fact we are taking her virginity, rather than wanting to cause pain by breaking a girls hymen.
it;s a shame, but if a boy sleeps with 10 girls, hes a stud. if a girl sleeps with 10 boys she is a slut. that is not fair
if a boy and girl are considering sex for the first time (sadly im still waiting), it should be special and nice. breaking the hymen might not be the only sore thing if done wrong

BlackParadePixie

Abbi first time sex is most likely going to hurt whether you have it or not.

Sean2001

jacksmith123
The double standard you mention, of guys who have lots of partners being considered studs and girls who have lots of partner being considered sluts is indeed very unfair and not at all nice.

But we should not sit back and say “That’s just how it is!”. If you measure your own worth as a guy by how many sexual partners you have had, or how much sex you have had overall, then you are perpetuating the problem. Likewise if you judge girls for how many sexual partners they have had. Do those things and you are part of the problem, not part of the solution and that applies whether or not you do those things because of peer pressure.

So lead the change. If there’s someone you want to have sex with, they want it too, and you can do it safely, then have sex with them and to hell with how many partners either of you have had before. If there isn’t anyone you want to have sex with right now, or there isn’t the opportunity, then masturbate and don’t worry about it. None of it makes you a better or worse person.

Sunflower

Just because a girl doesn’t have a hymen doesn’t mean she’s had sex. It can be broken but not fully broken

OR_EthanRiver

Sunflower ya that’s kind of what I read and learned from sex ed stuff so I was just kind of curious what it was like for girls on here.

Bella

BlackParadePixie definitely, first couple times even

Falcons_11D

Is it possible that a girl can be born without a hymen?

BlackParadePixie

Falcons_11D yes, but it is rare.